Merry YOUmas!

 Dedicated to YOU: my followers, friends, family, clients, and fellow passengers on this ride we call…LIFE!

T’was the Day of YOUmas

T’was the day of YOUmas and my only goal,

Was the feeling of gratitude penetrating my soul.

I looked to the left and I looked to the right.

Realizing what was actually in site:

Merely myself and the connection I could grasp instantly.

And the love that I had for especially ME!

To jest at the thought of loving YOU first,

Is a pure misconception and probably the worst.

YOU are the reason you are where you are.

YOU are perfectly placed not too close or too far.

Perfectly Rebecca and perfectly YOU.

It is the exact time to see how YOU grew!

Through my “riffs” and words I have experienced your joy.

And been the proud parent of a blog I enjoy!

So, as I sit in the midst of this beautiful dance,

And burst at the seams of my new corduroy pants.

I say to YOU my fellow warrior and queen:

“Be the best you can be and follow your dream!

This is a  test! One that cannot be missed.

One that will lead you to FOLLOW YOUR BLISS!”

Let your LOVE light shine so pretty and bright

And Merry YOUmas to all and to all a good fucking night! 😉

Merry Christmas from Still Playin’ With It and Rebecca Laser!

Fa La La La

In these final moments as we approach Christmas 2014, I wish you all the happiest of the year ending. I will write at least one more riff before we end. Enjoy the beauty of the Winter Solstice and the magic and finality of 2014. I am proud of each one of you. From Slovakia to Germany. Indo to Greece. China to Canada. The Netherlands to Afghanistan. The United States to England and every city, nation and space between…THANK YOU!! 

My utmost gratitude and respect is coming your way!

Love, Rebecca 

My mantra as of the past two weeks has been: “Less is more.” The liberation that came from this statement was truly satisfying. (Gratzi Dana!) I recognized when I dug deeper that there were things coming up that I want to share with you: my Still Playin’ With It family.

This ties in to my “to-do” list. Tis’ the season for that bloody thing. How many of you are more focused on what to mark off your to-do list than on what is in front of your face? Or WHO is in front of your face? Racing around the mall, Wal-mart and Marshalls (Link to Effing Marshall. A riff from a few months back that I think is hilarious. Just sayin’) in an attempt to feel that your day has been at least somewhat successful.

We may take a second to glance up from our Iphones and Droids (link to Insta This) after looking at our electronic check list, to see if the line at Macy’s is moving forward. There is even this awesome App called CLEAR that really hits my task completing vein!! Like a fein ready to be worthy of a moment to relax tonight, I get to either swipe left to put a line through the item or swipe right to remove it entirely! Watch out TINDER! This is a perfect gift for your neurotic family member and its a bargain at only 99 cents. Sweet deal. (Thank you Ian.)

Oh, the irony. As I am sitting here writing about CLEAR, my phone dings with a reminder from CLEAR of a
gift I didn’t want to forget to buy. Ha! Yes, it even will send you a reminder. SHUT IT DOWN, REBECCA!

Let’s take this a step further, shall we? “Yes. We shall, Rebecca. Thank you so much for helping me dig a little deeper. Look a little more inside this body and mind of mine.” You’re welcome. 🙂 

When pondering on this new concept of my never ending “TO-DO” list and allowing myself to step into the cave of truth and wisdom I feared to enter, I have come to a conclusion the past year. The conclusion: My “To-Do” list has been a means of not only distraction, but also a coping skill, if you will. What I mean is this: If I focus on this list of tasks to be completed, then I don’t have to or won’t look at the other things externally and/or internally that are begging for my attention. In this space where I get to mark one task off when I complete it, I FEEL better. I slash through “dog food” and the choir of angels sing as I am one step closer to finishing my list for the day while not taking the time to focus on me.

Like that little voice inside you that whispers: “Meditate. Hug your child. Walk your dog. Be here now.” We ignore it due to the weight of our list. “Oh, yes, I will do all that nonsense once my list is complete.” DOH! Please, let it go and do those priceless things now.

But who of you doesn’t do that? The more tasks I complete, the better I feel. The more I get done, the more worthy I am of feeling good? Think. On. That.

And if I don’t finish Wednesday’s List? God forbid I would simply allow it to flow in to the next day. Or imagine, if it didn’t really matter at all?  We chatted about this In Do Do or Doo Doo where I encouraged you to focus on the wonderful things you did get done versus what you didn’t. Again, less is, and can be, so much more when you allow yourself to flow in YOUR perfection.

I shared last week in Perfectly Rebecca, I have been practicing setting my intention for the day before my feet hit the floor in the morning. Sometimes this is just a “go through” of my day ahead type moment. While taking deep breaths, I go over my schedule, in preparation.

Lastly, I have been challenged to limit my “To-Do” list to no more than 3 items (Again thank you DD). I am attempting, and I mean attempting, to allow this process of awareness and letting go to create space for more. This is much harder than I thought! But freeing as well.

My challenge to you in these last 9 days till Christmas…

1. Stay focused on what matters right now

2. Smile at a stranger

3. Offer a hand to help someone

4. Reflect on how much you do do

5. Slow down

6. Be proud of who you are

7. Stay off your phone while in the line at Starbucks

8. Take an evening stroll and look at the wonder

9. Soak in a bubble bath

10. HUG it out

11, yes, 11. LOVE. Period.

“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Perfectly Rebecca

“Some of the worst mistakes in my life were haircuts.” -Jim Morrison

In Honor of and dedicated to my father: Richard Ross Craig. (He is alive, don’t worry, and more of a stud today than ever before.)  

GOOD LORD! So as I am “Still Playin’ With It…” I noticed that a bunch of my pictures, almost all, are missing from my previous posts. What the hell? GRRRRRR! Then I realized why after a little recon: I deleted pics I had used from my media folder on WordPress not knowing it would remove their links in my blogs! (Insert Aussie accent here…) “Good on ya, Rebecca Laser”  for trying to organize your life and thereby lose all previous files. So! There it is. It is. It is perfectly…Rebecca Laser. They may never come back and I will be okay with that…I think. 🙂

Let it go…Can you? Is there something in your life that is holding you back because you can’t let it go? I utilize the image of holding reigns often with my clients. Take your hands right now and visualize holding reigns as tight as possible. Finger tips digging into your palms. Fists squeezing so tight nothing could penetrate the grip. Take a deep breath and release the grip…slowly…allow the light to enter and the control to release. Enjoy the ride.

I tell you…I sat at my spot, beer in hand, being spoiled by my friend and bartender. I thought: “This is gonna be a great night to write!” Then distraction set in as I ruminated on details of the day, or on what I wanted to come out onto the screen. Oh, and then I met Ryan, a fellow writer. And then my chicken was dry and the girl behind me was yelling in my ear. All distractions of life that love to wiggle their bloody paws into our moments. Frosted on top of the fact that my photos were buried in the WordPress cemetery. (Letting it go…)

AHHH! WHERE THE HELL ARE MY PICTURES? (Well, trying…) This is an opportunity to practice what I preach. Deep Breath. Be here now. Enjoy the moment. Taste the hops. See the patrons. Here the tunes in my ear. Move right. Move to the right hemisphere of that gorgeous brain and feel the night. FEEL the words. Feel the presence of greatness surrounding you, readers. FEEL the elements surrounding you and FEEL yourself in the midst. There must be a gift wrapped in this shit. As I sit here I think: “What a perfect example of the title of my blog: Still Playin’ With IT!!! Again, I say: “Aren’t we all?!

I titled this “Perfectly Rebecca” because I was feeling frustrated and bummed about my blog mishap. Judging myself for making a mistake. Judging myself for not knowing the ins and outs of the blogging world. Frustrated at the amount of time it would take to fix it…blah blah blah. Then, I stopped and thought about a conversation I had with a wonderful girl I see in my private practice. We were discussing her frustrations at thoughts she has, or decisions she makes. She was wondering if they were “good or bad” in an attempt to clarify her feelings. Or possibly, in an attempt to identify the “whys”. Or a way to ultimately understand her true self. As I listened to this gorgeous soul discuss her pain and frustration at why things are the way they are, or why she feels the way she does, I looked at her and said, You are perfectly You! (inserted her name here.) You are perfectly and exactly where you are supposed to be. Thank you for the true inspiration you give me (MS).

And I say to YOU: wherever you are and whoever you are: YOU ARE PERFECTLY YOU. Period. Even in the midst of chaos and judgements towards yourself. Stop. Take a breath and accept this moment as ideal. Accept this space as RIGHT. Acknowledge this step as part of the amazing process we call life. And be fucking proud of yourself. You are HERE because of all the steps you took prior. Right? Repeat after me: I AM PERFECTLY (insert name here)!

You have a choice. You have a choice right now to be bitter and pissed, as I was for a moment. Or you can enjoy this moment as perfectly placed in your path for a purpose. Or just love yourself and your “mistakes.” The dictionary defines “mistake” as:

“an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.” 

Well then. I mean, without getting TOO DEEP…(HA! Yeah, right! I would never force ya’ all to DIG DEEP!) If you had poorly reasoned, carelessly decided, and/or insufficient knowledge, then how the hell wouldn’t you fuck it up? This statement infers there was a moment, a planck (the smallest measurement of time) where you were able to decide. To decide which way to go. And from this present awareness”mistakes” happen.

Mahatma Gandhi said: “It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.” 

Mistakes can be some of the biggest gifts in our lives. Aw, the red wedges of Bali! (Woohoo, AW!) These “mistakes”, or planck of time, or moments of reasoning… give us the bridge to the cave we fear to enter, yes? In this cave are the elements used for producing a perfect “YOU-MUFFIN”. Maybe made out of momentary icky ingredients. But, yummy nonetheless. 🙂 

NOW…Get out your air guitar and rock this planet being thee…

PERFECTLY ALIGNED INGREDIENT THAT YOU ARE!!! 

“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin