IF YOU BUILD IT…

“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.” Joseph Campbell
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‘Still Playin With It’ Family…

Today, I set out to write. I am moved. I have been inspired this last week by challenges, educational experiences and MORE than anything…Opportunities For Growth! When an opportunity comes (like I have mentioned before) and it appears to be wrapped in shit, you have two options: Take it or leave it. Who wants to take a present wrapped in pain, heartache or failure? Not many of us would ask for that.

(With a hint of sarcasm…) “Oh please god. IF you really love me, you will give me a ton of painful, life altering, awkward moments, and I will accept them with grace! Pretty please?!”

IMG_3813If we are to be free of the imprisonment of fear, we must accept these truly as gifts, as treasures, as a part of our Hero’s Journey.  As a means to slay the dragon and utilize our hearts cry to discover our bliss. Your bliss! What is your platform? How will you leap to the next level?  In retrospect, so many of these moments were used to catapult you and me into what is next…into what is delicious on the other side of the unveiling…

Fear is a cry of our ego to be heard! “Listen to me!” says your ego.  “I am worried!” Don’t you know that you don’t know what you think you know!?!!!”  (YES! That is exactly what I just said!) YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TOMORROW HOLDS.  There is no evidence to prove what may or may not happen tomorrow, or in an hour, or in a year.

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real 

What would you do today if you had no fear? NO FEAR of what may happen or what may not? What could you do with your life TODAY that would push you a little closer to your bliss if you didn’t tread lightly? What would it look like to live like you were dying?

WHAT IS POSSIBLE? I believe it is ALL possibly, if you BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! That is what it takes, SPWI Friends. It takes you believing in the whisper or gong of your heart. What is going to make your heart burst right out of your chest?IMG_7333

I am taking a leap of faith today. I have been hearing the past week: “If you build it, they will come.” Most of us know this line from the movie The Field of Dreams. Today, I am asking for guidance, internal guidance towards my bliss. “I will WRITE. I will TRAVEL. I will TEACH” has been my mantra for 4 months now. I believe this will happen. Mind you, maybe I will be traveling to Stockton, California, or Nepal…not sure…but I BELIEVE it is going to happen…well it already is because it is INSIDE of me!  YES?! You feeling me? “If you build it, THEY will come.” Your dreams. Your visions. Your bliss. Time to start the construction…
IMG_8417I listen to an inspiring podcast from David T. Wood on his podcast series, The Kick Ass Life. Today, Crystal Flaman, of “Inspiring Success” was discussing the move from “Success to Significance.” I desire to be SIGNIFICANT! I desire to make an impact on this world and change the lives of those who didn’t believe it was possible. But more poignantly to me today was that she mentioned the line from Field Of Dreams…”If you build it, they will come.” I got tears in my eyes, looked up and said, “I am ready…I will continue to lay the foundation to build this dream.”

“I will reach, coach and empower people through my teaching and example to live to THEIR optimal potential!” (my mission statement)

And as, Mark Divine says, “I will master myself” in the process. Ever striving to be the best ME I can be!

Still Playin’ With It has been just that: my platform towards creating space for my bliss. A total leap of faith! An avenue for me to make clear the lines that blurred my vision. To accept and know where I want to go and utilize this amazingly supported stage as a catalyst to greatness, my personal greatness. So, I THANK YOU! I thank you for holding this space in your heart and on the web: Twitter, Insta, Facebook, Linked In, Rebeccalaser.com, clients, colleagues, mentors, friends and family…thank you.

And I ask again, please share with me how you are being inspired by Still Playin With It. How have my words, which are merely just the chat my heart has with my head, impacting you?

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I have a new practice I would like to share with you: I have a post-it next to my sink in the kitchen. It says:

Drink H2O + Gratitude = Pavlov

If you don’t know who Pavlov is: he was a psychologist, and behaviorist that discovered and theorized about conditioning. Brief synopsis: Through association he found that by ringing a bell, his dog would salivate as if ready to eat. He would ring the bell, feed the dog. And eventually he just rang the bell and the dog salivated with no food. We are the same creatures. We are able to do salivate at the conditioning of our spirit.

FOR ME: This post-it reminds me every morning as I drink my 8 oz. of lemon water, to be grateful, or ignite the feeling of gratitude as I drink thereby training myself. Eventually,  I will have trained my mind that whenever I drink water, I will feel gratitude. GRATITUDE is the most important energy you can store and have access to. Yet it still takes practice.IMG_6816

Invent your self today! What will your “Pavlov-type” training be this week? Please tell me! I will help you create those new neural pathways! You got this!  If you need help thinking of one, here are a few examples:

1. Tickle your arm + think of your partner = touching arm equals thoughts of your partner.

2. Turn on the shower + say out loud, “I love you, Rebecca (your name)” = Shower equals self love.

3. Open the fridge + think of someone you want to forgive. Fridge = forgiveness/love

Eventually the first action will make an immediate association and appropriately trained response.

IMG_6830What a journey into yourself it is! Take it. Take the leap. Take the shit covered present…it will change your life. It will empower you and strengthen you more than you could have ever imagined. I lived it this week. This past week brought a bit of pain and a lot of TRUTH and CLARITY. Unfortunately, it came wrapped in a stinky box of crap. I have lived this journey and truly reflected on it the past two years. I have fallen into, stepped around and landed face first in the cave I FEARED to enter. Oh my! The diamonds inside are so brilliant! I can hardly contain myself! Thank you for being a part of my journey, people. Thank you, again.

I will leave you with a quote from above because I BELIEVE it is worth asking twice!

What would you do TODAY if you had no fear? NO FEAR of what may happen or what may not? What could you do with your life TODAY that would push you a little closer to your bliss if you didn’t TREAD LIGHTLY? What would it look like to live like you were dying?

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” -Benjamin Franklin

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Self Contained

“Listen to the beat of your heart.” -Rebecca Laser

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In last weeks blog: All In, I built upon the Joseph Campbell quote: “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” Some of you may have discovered the cave, or tip toed around it this week. I hope you take a leap and jump on in. The treasure is worth the momentary discomfort. This cave will not only give you a gift, it will allow you to see and create new experiences in YOUR life. The ones you may have been dreaming of for decades. Proceed with caution as this cave may be a little treacherous. The number one rule in SCUBA: Always use the buddy system. Same with entering dim, scary, caves! Whether a trusted friend or an amazing therapist…(hint hint!)
DCIM100GOPROBefore going to Bali I got my SCUBA cert finished. Thank you for the inspiration Natgeo and KT! When in Gili Trawangan, a killer island off of Bali, I did my FIRST solo dive. Okey, my Indo dive master, did a pre-dive brief explaining the depth we would go to and what we may see. He went over the hand signals for sea creatures we may see such as turtles, sting rays and sharks. He spoke to me as if I knew what I was doing. I was thinking:

“Hey Okey, I dove at La Jolla Shores in California a few times inundated by massive amounts of gear and freezing cold water with little to no visibility. But, hey, seeing a shark sounds cool. I am just glad I will be able to see. Period.”

After my 45 second briefing, I boarded the boat and acclimated my self to my foreign gear. This regulator, BC and weighting system were totally different than what I used in Cali. Holy crap. I was feeling my heart rate escalate. I was completely aware that I didn’t feel safe to enter this “cave.” Then he told me how we would enter the water: “Sit up on the edge of the boat railing Rebecca and when I
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What the hell did he just say? That picture to the right is of me before I fell back…I look freaked out, hey? Because I WAS!! I had to capture this moment on my Go-Pro. (Pics to the right…)

DCIM100GOPROIf you aren’t ready to step into the fearful cave, or fall back into it, then at least notice it, observe it and allow it to do it’s job. Maybe take a guided peak inside (buddy system, right?) If the fear is too great, it may not be time. And that is ok! Fear isn’t in our life to make us paralyzed and afraid.  It also serves a purpose: protection. If you are afraid to enter that cave, or aren’t ready, don’t stress. It will be there when you are ready. And remember: if you force something sooner than it is to happen, you won’t see or get the treasure that awaits.

After Okey and I fell back, I floated at the top for 5 seconds, took a deep breath, and down we went. What I then saw was more breathtaking, not literally, than I could have ever imagined. The sea life was phenomenal. The coral was beyond brilliant. I saw big turtles, a Moray Eel, many Nemos, and a few small reef sharks. I had a personal tour guide in Okey, too. Beyond the magnificent beauty of exploring the depths of the sea, I was exploring the depths of me.

SCUBA Lesson #1: Breathe. Just breathe! DCIM100GOPRO

I often tell my Still Playin’ With It family and my clients the importance of your breath. In How to Kick Ass in One Easy Step, I go into the amazement of our breath. I preach it. I teach it in my Pilates class. We do it daily without even thinking about it. When underwater all you have is the moment and your breath. Yes, your autonomic nervous system will control your breath and kick in when you are out of air or aren’t allowing it to flow naturally. But, in order to really flourish in this space, you have got to focus on your breath and allow it to be. What a pure realization for me. Breath is life. Lastly: When the going gets tough, the tough get breathing!

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In addition to the pure focus that comes to your beautiful breath when underwater, is the power your breath has within finding your buoyancy. I learned very fast that buoyancy is a key element to having fun down there. Buoyancy is defined as the ability to float in liquid. Finding neutral buoyancy is optimal while cruising around underwater.  Inhale: your lungs expand and you start to rise up. Exhale: your lungs decrease in size and you start to sink. Finding a smooth, rhythmic breath is where you want to be. Allowing yourself to feel that weightless, floating sensation is where the magic happens underwater and in life. This rhythmic space gives you a peace that surpasses fear.

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SCUBA Lesson #2: BE PRESENT! That is all you can do. 

Another life skill I teach often is Be Here Now, be aware, be present. When you are a human in the underwater world, all you have is NOW. If something was to go wrong, you have to be focused and present to handle it. If you are naturally focused on your breath and connected to the moment, then you are present, and able to handle the issues that may arise. As well as, enjoy each and every molecule and yummy second! Truly inspiring. Like when I am on my yoga mat, being underwater has taught me to stay present and focused on the NOW. NO WORRIES!

SCUBA Lesson #3: (more of a personal one) I am ALL IN!

DCIM100GOPROI am “all in” in everything I do lately. SCUBA is an example of me jumping in with all I am. No “half-ass” Rebecca Laser here. When I am “all in” I have learned to hear the wisdom of my inner guide, my authentic self, “My-Me.” (Link to Tootsie Rollin) Please hear me: sometimes this “all in” momentum isn’t my first choice. Some rare times, like I spoke of in All-In last week, I need a gentle push, or complete crash to be “all in.” Nevertheless, I AM IN! When YOU are “all in” you are able to hear the beat of your heart. Or as I “profoundly” stated this weekend to an amazing person in my life:

“I think it is when you actually listen to and follow your hearts guidance that the true resonation you are looking for in your life occurs.” (That is for you SC.)

My Next “ALL IN” experience: Getting my first SURF lesson today! Yew!

WHAT IS YOUR “ALL IN” EXPERIENCE GOING TO BE?! Breathe. Be present. Be “ALL IN”!

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

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“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” Joseph Campbell

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Dear Bali, thank you for all the gifts you gave me. As I expressed a few weeks ago in Look What I Found?! there were times, I truly felt stretched while traveling along through a foreign land. I am three weeks home and the memories, feelings and love I have for that journey are hard for me to express, as they are all so rich in ingredients. The people I met, the lessons I learned and the visions I saw. Amazing. During some of those stretching moments, I didn’t see them as beautiful. I saw them as scary, awkward, uncomfortable and at times painful. In hindsight, I found my cave…and I am so grateful for it. 10592777_10152829132012189_5039563355179949029_n

The above quote from Joseph Campbell was given to me in an email from my mentor. He said, “The universe told me to give this to you.” (Thank you Mr. S) As much as it resonated within me, I was already afraid of what I was being told. “No thank you, Universe. I am not in the mood to enter a cave, let alone one that I fear, no matter how FABULOUS this gift is. But thank you.”

As I paraded around Bali and truly since receiving that quote, I have been looking over my shoulder wondering when I was going to trip into this cave. Looking in front and around me, carefully maneuvering my steps like I am on a tight rope scared of falling into the trench.  Because you and I both know that I wasn’t going to skip and stroll in to it with open arms. A CAVE? Yikes. FEAR? NO thank you.

IMG_8907You may be thinking, “How can a magical land like Bali bring about or be the essence of a fearful cave?” Well, let me tell you StillPlayin’ With It fans. When we strip our lives of the inundation of technology, (link to Insta This) and remove the lists of tasks, people, events, and the propensity to rush from one thing to the other, you become pretty freakin’ vulnerable to what you ARE to hear. Whether you believe this message comes from God, the universe, angels, or your inner authentic self doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are listening with clarity and seeing with an immense amount of precision giving you all you need in that moment to witness the unfolding of a treasure. I am not sure I was ready. More that it was time, the quintessential time. And like a perfectly baked cake, the ingredients were all there.

IMG_3177I think I may be leaving you with some inquiry into what treasures I found and why I was scared. If you are reading this I am going to assume you are probably a human. (If you aren’t, PLEASE introduce yourself and let your friends know about Still Playin With It!) As a human, with a beautiful brain and mind, you have the ability to be aware and open to all that is in front of you. So, this isn’t about me…but about YOU. Ready to enter the cave? If not, that is ok. If so, find a little tour guide to support you.

Since returning from Bali, I have been attempting to lay a path towards my future, which is truly unknown. One of the gifts I received from this journey was listening to my inner voice and my heart. While in Bali, I received a job offer to move forward with a company I thought I wanted. I thought I “should” take this job. “Should” meaning we often “should” on ourselves without being aware of our true desire. My heart was saying NO! That was such a hard
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I was given an awesome opportunity to utilize some of lessons the cave taught me! I believe that we have the ability to do and be all we desire, especially if listening to your heart and minimizing the chatter of your brain. My bliss was not a part of this company or job at all. It was bringing constriction and fear. And at the perfect time, I watched Shawshank Redemption and heard this: “Some birds are not meant to be caged. Their wings are just too bright.”  Why force it? If you’re wings are bright, let them color the wind of your life and the lives of the people you are to touch. 🙂

This is my vision statement and I want it to align with my future calling and jobby job:

“To reach, teach and empower people to break through their fear, embrace change and live the life they desire to their utmost potential!”

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I discussed in the video Bump, SET, Spike! about setting an intention. After turning down that job, I returned to my passion. I realized many of the reasons I was taking that job were fear based and not out of love. My passion, my bliss, is my love. If I was to make a decision around love, then I had to refine my focus, and set my intention on my true desire. I have taken steps and now have two offices I will be using to BUILD my private practice. I would be honored and delighted if you take a peek at, and “like” my Facebook page: Rebecca Laser Counseling. I want to be your tour guide. YOU have all the resources within you. I will just bring alonga head lamp and a space to use of self discovery.

I am open to the infinite possibilities of this life. Are you? I mean, we have all the resources we need internally and externally, if we are open to using them. Identify your resources right now. And enter that cave you fear…because I can tell you from experience, THERE ARE AMAZING TREASURES INSIDE. I PROMISE.

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 “Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin