Hike Life

Hike This!

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I am setting off on a wee adventure this week. I will be hiking through the Grand Canyon with my folks. So excited! I have spent about 200 miles of exploration and searching in the depths of this majestic place over the past 13 years. The Grand Canyon is a place where I seem to stumble upon, as well as, seek out the utmost clarity! Is it possible to do both? Seek out and stumble upon? I would say yes!  My father turned me on to this land of freedom and spirituality. It will be his 70th birthday on Thursday!

I believe I will hike out with more connection emotionally, spiritually and physically than I start my downward trek with! As my pack gets lighter, so will my body. This I can guarantee. And you all know I will be sharing these revelations with you!

One of my clients asked me today what I find so “spiritual” about the Grand Canyon. (Thank you CL for asking!)

My answer:

“It is a place that is void of distractions. It assists me in quieting my mind and truly being present. Connecting with nature is the quickest way for me to truly connect with my spirituality and god. It is in this quietude that I am able to truly hear and listen. Ponder that. There is a glorious resonance in the quiet.”

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No cell phones. No computers. No internet. No distractions from social media. No cyber fixes. None. Period. Oh the nonsense! It will be amazing and liberating! INSTA THIS is a little riff on my view on this exact topic! Enjoy!

So as I venture off on another blessed adventure with my folks I ask you this…

  • What will you be doing this week that will add spice and pizzaz to your life?
  • What will you venture out to do externally and internally? 
  • Who will the character of your life story be? 
  • What dream will you create?

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Lastly, this is a fun entry back on May 19, 2014. Just over a year ago: Effing Marshall. I outlined my favorite part below:

Musts in the Grand Canyon:

1. Good Shoes…that you have worn in. “Is that person wearing Keds? You got it. That nasty toe nail blister is called Canyon Toe.”

2.  A trail guide. “Ummm, no Ma’am, the Colorado River is at the bottom.”

3. Food. “Enough for the ENTIRE time you are hiking, no more, no less and no cheese.”

4. Ear plugs. “Oh wait, thats if you are hiking with a roaring lion like my dad…and many other wonderful men I know.”

5. Deodorant. “Just because you are hiking in the Grand Canyon i.e. Nature…doesn’t mean you can smell like onions and pee.” 

6. A head lamp. “BUT IF YOU SHINE THAT THING IN MY FACE ONE MORE TIME, I WILL THROW MY CAN OF TUNA AT YOU!”

7. Funny-as-hell men that will make you laugh the entire time. “My favorite hike: My dad, and his 4 buddies. Hands down, the funniest, most entertaining and educational trip of my life.”

8. A visor. “Yes. Visors are cool in the GC. I promise.”

9. Dice: “Well, you may have a few hours to kill. Why not do it in a “non-competitive” sport. Right Mom?”

10. Duct Tape. “Because Macgyver said so!”

11. AND NO DOOBIES!

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Love and Longing, Rebecca 

PLEASE REMEMBER

“To the ones that DESERVE TO BE SERVED…I AM COMMITTED TO YOUR SUCCESS!” -RML

I Remember…

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I remember five years ago standing in a gym telling a fellow gym babe that my ideal job would be to work with the military inside and outside the office. TODAY I am doing it! I am more than proud of the work I do daily. #changinglives 😉

I remember struggling with my divorce from a US Marine for many reasons. But for this specific: I was a proud military spouse that wanted to support her USMC man in every way. Those moments you don’t understand why things happen the way they do, REMEMBER, it will ALL work out for good…if you TRUST yourself and the process.

HINDSIGHT: I was able to step into my current job due to my experience as a military spouse. Don’t question where you are. Just know it is right.

TO ALL my military peeps that TRUST me daily with your heart, mind, and past…THANK YOU!!!!!!!! 

And…TO ALL those that have supported me in this dream, THANK YOU!

Thank you Poppy for your service to this country. You are my hero.

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Some of you, if not all, have read my blog: “SERVCE”. It was originally written 29, March, 2014. One of my first. I have published it twice since then due to the impact it had on me and where I AM TODAY:

“I am committing to serving them right now. I will volunteer my time and career to serving this population of people. Whether by listening to their stories, connecting them to services or holding their hands. Whether supporting the families at home while their loved ones are away, or contacting our government officials to discuss the benefits they deserve…I will serve them. Whether by researching and making forward progress into treatment modalities that will assist them in processing their experiences and leading successful post-war lives, I will serve them.”

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This entry is passionately riffed as the subject matter is near and dear to my heart. Please read and comment. Please allow yourself to feel my words. Thank you for reading.

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Inspired…

How many of you know someone who has served this country? I am sure you all do. These are the men and women, past and present, who have given up their freedoms to protect ours.

My gratitude for the military is beyond words to express. I really have a hard time verbalizing my gratitude, my respect, admiration and utter love for this population.

The ones that… during the draft of Vietnam, watched the old black and white TV in their parents living room sat scared shitless as their number was drawn. Could you imagine this feeling? I can’t. Or while the love of your life, your son, husband, boyfriend, nephews number was drawn. Imagine.

And to the women that nursed these men back to the best health they had the ability to. For the women that served this country on the sidelines, seeing the blood and guts while hearing the same things the men did in the trenches. The smell of gasoline, the feeling of blood and the loss of a friend.

Or the ones that came home ready for a ticker tape parade and instead being spit on. Pride in their hearts and pain in their soul.

Or the ones that received the word that their child, spouse or friend had given it all for the betterment of our lives at home. Imagine.

These are the 18 year old boys (not old enough to drink legally) that say, “Sign me up. I mean I don’t have a better option. My folks are poor, I wasn’t given the opportunity to go to college, I live in a small town and don’t wanna work at the gas station, so I think I will sign up for a job that feeds me three meals, gives me a bed and pays me less than minimum wage.”

Or the ones that decided, “After college, I will commit to continued excellence by now, giving at least four more years to the betterment of this country and the men and women in the military. I want to develop leaders by being a leader.”

Or the girl that thought, “I can do this. I will show them, I will prove to myself and to the world, that I am strong, that I matter, that I am enough to fight for this country.”

Or the ones that courageously said Post 9-11, “SIGN ME UP! I am proud and honored to protect this country from an attack of this impact.” Without looking at any details of the attack or the governments involvement, they said without a blink of an eye, “I will serve, I will commit my life, I will forge forward and I will make a difference.”

Or the woman that says, “Go, my love. I will support you. I will be here when you return with my arms wide open, ready for your return, no matter the impact it has on you, me, or our family. I will love you if you return without a limb, return with a tremendous amount of stress in your mind, and the inability to connect for…a while.”

Or the parent that accepts with pride as they watch their son or daughter get on that bus and drive away for bootcamp, knowing that there is the possibility that this little person they grew in their womb and in their homes would be able to hold a gun, fight for our country and lose their life.

(Alan Jackson’s Song, “Where Were You (When The World Stopped Turning)” just came on Pandora…Thank you for the confirmation of my inspiration this am)

Or the child that watches, possibly unaware, of why Mommy or Daddy is leaving again. Smiling, they hug them, giggling they squeeze their neck while the parent holds back the tears to be strong for their family. “See you soon, baby. Daddy will be back before you know it.”

I will forever and ever and ever, admire, respect and SUPPORT our military. Despite political opinions, sex, race, sexual preference, SES, education…THANK YOU!

How can we serve them? How can we give them back a teaspoon of what they give and gave us?

I am committing to serving them right now. I will volunteer my time and career to serving this population of people. Whether by listening to their stories, connecting them to services or holding their hands. Whether supporting the families at home while their loved ones are away, or contacting our government officials to discuss the benefits they deserve…I will serve them. Whether by researching and making forward progress into treatment modalities that will assist them in processing their experiences and leading successful post-war lives, I will serve them.

The ones that DESERVE TO BE SERVED…I AM COMMITTED TO YOUR SUCCESS.

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I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR YOUR SERVICE. 

Tag! You’re It!

“The privilege of a lifetime is being WHO YOU ARE!” Joseph Campbell

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Helloooo Still Playin’ With It Family!

I got to spend a spectacular weekend with my father. He came for a quick visit from Oregon. What a stellar man. Sincerely he is the tour guide that made me who I am today in every way. We cruised the beach discussing the worlds’ problems and bitched about annoyances. We laughed and drank margaritas on the beach that we bought at the liquor store. #lawbreakers 🙂  The best memory of the past weekend is when my dad and I created our own personal Tag Lines. I will reveal below…read on. IMG_2850

I riff quite often on remembering that we are RIGHT where we are supposed to be. Even in the awkward, uncomfortable spaces. As I dropped my father off at the airport this a.m. I was sad to say good bye for now. Did I yell out my Ford Edge as I drove off, “Later Pops! I won’t miss you because I am right where I am supposed to be…one thousand miles away from my favorite man!” Hell no! I was fucking bummed. (F-Bomb for you DB) For good reason, too.

As I negotiated with my brain and heart throughout the day, I recognized this: In our Hero’s Journey we are called to adventure! Is my adventure nestled in the comfort of my home in Oregon with my folks? No. Is it sitting next to my best mates in the Great Pacific Northwest? (RD, DS and KG) Nope. BUT, it is in a space I created. A life I sought and discovered on my Hero’s Journey.

My adventure and the Tag-Line I created for my life stemming from past experiences, present moments, and future dreams is this:

Rebecca Laser: Travelin’ the world and kicking ass. 

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This adventure is laid out in a yellow brick road of F.G.O’s. and moments that stretch us to a point of exhaustion. Remember readers: We grow the most from things that stretch us the most!

The quote below is from Do Do or Doo Doo. A valuable read from Still Playin’ With It.

“How do we become strong? First, you must identify your definition of strong. How does strength show up in your life? Generally speaking, in order to become strong, we allow ourselves to experience the pain of growth, or the discomfort of stretching our muscles to a point of exhaustion. Thereby, experiencing the amazement of building YOUR STRENGTH!”

Is your adventure stretching you today? If so I give you a big fat high five! You are doing it! Good on ya! It is courage that pushes you through those moments you want to say, “Fuck it!” and give up? (That is two DB) It is bravery that keeps you moving forward despite those uncomfortable times of fear that you feel!

What part of your Hero’s Journey are you forging through? The Call to Adventure? Are you slaying dragons? Or are you returning to tell the tale? Remember, I am with you.IMG_0296

Is my pops on this rad voyage with me? Am I able to connect with my Dad at any moment? Absolutely. My pops sent me this text this a.m:

“I am always with you.” 

And he is! You are always with me. I am always with you! May I even suggest we are one? Oh shit, that is for a whole other blog! (If interested in my esoteric opinion on the matter, shoot me an email and I will expand!)

Here is my dad’s Tag-Line he created at that moment on the sand. Fluffy, it isn’t. True, it is:

“R.C: Live life and F#@* the rest.”

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Yes, this is my dad for you. I love him for it! He has learned in his almost 70 years how to “Hike Life” and move forward without the shackles of other’s opinions, ideas and projections. Definitely lessons for all of us to learn. Yes?

What is your life Tag Line? Make it simple. Make it congruent with your intentions and who you are. And share it with me!

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Milestone Monday

Dedicated to my MOTHER: THANK YOU for all of YOU! For giving all of YOU, loving with all of YOU, and supporting with all of YOU. Thank you, Mom. 

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Why is it that we must have a HUGE event in our life to feel like we hit a milestone? What is a milestone?

“Milestone” according to Webster is:

 an action or event marking a significant change or stage in development.

You hit a “Milestone” this am by waking up, feet hitting the floor and taking steps towards your day. A milestone to me may be different than for you. So honor each milestone in your life today. No matter how minuscule it feels or insignificant you want to believe it is. I truly believe if we saw each moment and day as significant we would enjoy the ride more. Agree?

IMG_2585Yesterday as I walked with a beautiful sage in my life (thank you BSM), we were riffing about many insightful topics. One being this: We are ALWAYS moving forward. ALWAYS. Whether in circles, or to the left, right or with our back to the wind. Forward is where we will end up. What is backwards? It is still movement to where you are to be in that moment. Plus, why would you want to walk backwards? Why would you choose to cruise this world backwards? It would be confusing. You would be blind and clumsy. Lacking confidence. Falling numerous times while bumping into people and items in your backwards path. Let alone the probability that you WILL get hurt is quite high. Yes?

SPWI Challenge #1 for Milestone Monday:

Walk all day backwards. Let me know how it goes. 

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When I do walking lunges at the gym, my angst increases a smidgen as I practice them backwards. If you
TRUST yourself and take your time, it is much easier to go somewhere you can’t see with your eyes. Therefore, when I lunge backwards, I take a deep breath, keep my abs engaged intensely and trust my process. If I wobble, or have to put the other leg down…it is ok.

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20 lunges forward and

10 lunges backwards…

and how about we add in 5 to the right and 5 to the left. 

Remember: ABS IN. BREATHE. PUSH THROUGH YOUR HEEL. KICK ASS!

IN the spirit of MONDAY: this day in the week that seems to have a consistent feeling of: “UGH!” As well as, the MILESTONES we WILL create today, I am bringing you my acronym for T.G.I.M!

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T=Tickled

When is the last time you were tickled? Come on. Get to tickling yourself. Just the word “tickle” makes us smile. So TICKLE AWAY!!

G=Generate 

What will you deliberately GENERATE today? A phone call? A feeling? A completed goal?

I=Intrepid

FEELING NO FEAR! What does FEAR stand for? You are courageous! Don’t forget that!

M=Movement 

MOVE YOUR BODY PEOPLE! Physically and mentally! Commit to moving today.

MILESTONES come through MOVEMENT! ALWAYS FORWARD! (except when you are doing Challenge #2 today) 😉

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What is your T.G.I.M acronym today going to be? And/Or PLEASE use the one I created and ponder the ways you are going to be:

 TICKLED, GENERATING AMAZING SHIT, INTREPID, and MOVING FORWARD!

Lastly, to the RAD WOMEN in my life that I am honored to think of as wise, open, and generous “Moms”: My UTMOST respect and gratitude! You KNOW who you are. Terimah Kasih Women!

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Risky Business

“Like seasons past, so is the history of our pathway, our footprints, and our tracks.” -SPWI

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Good Morning Still Playin’ With It family! A ginormous Terimah Kasih (“thank you” in Indo) to all those that have inquired when the next blog would be. That shows and tells me I am doing something right!

IMG_0141If you read me on the reg or are getting to know me now, I tend to be VERY consistent with my writing. My efforts for the first year of this #creature (nat geo) were once a week, which I conquered! I have recognized that since my year anniversary edition and the story of Princess Boots, I have taken a little subconscious sabbatical. (Click that link to read the fairy tale of Princess Boots!) My sabbatical being a much needed rest. Which is NOT easy for me!

Just as the seasons of the year change, so does the seasons of our lives. In the midst of this transition from one season to the next, hibernation, rest and stillness are necessary. To honor that in myself and yourself is a beautiful gift. Good On Ya Rebecca Laser! (JH)

I have written about seasons before. Excerpt from Look What I Found!:
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“The seasons result from the Earth’s axis of rotation being tilted with respect to its orbital plane. Imagine your life spinning on the axis of your history, ever rotating, moving through seasons…”

And love it. Love the season you are in. Perfectly where you are placed to be. Remembering it is ONLY a season.

Still Playin’ With It is my biggest achievement thus far, I believe. I can’t believe those words spewed from my mouth and mind. I am in CONSISTENT awe of what happens when you “Follow Your Bliss” as Joseph Campbell discusses in the Hero’s JourneyFollowing your bliss means discovering what gets your fires a blazin’! Following your bliss can be scary and vulnerable, yes? It may mean taking a risk. So do it!

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”-T.S. Eliot

I truly encourage you to watch Finding Joe.  Rent it here or buy it at the link I attached, as well! It is worth it. And if you do so, PLEASE tell me your thoughts. Joseph Campbell, the inspiration to the film says: “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.“-Joseph Campbell

When I sought out to write a blog, I had no idea what that would entail. Let alone the commitment it was going to be. But I did it. I stepped out in a leap of total faith and fell into something that gets me buzzed.

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When I am sitting in my office with a client who is evolving, changing and sifting more into themselves(EK) …I am following my bliss. When I am writing to YOU at 5 am on a Thursday with inspiration from the moments in my life…I am following my bliss. When I am thanked by a Marine for being a little tour guide into themselves(SG)…I am following my bliss. When I recognize that I am following my bliss, I feel passionate. I feel excited. I feel ready.

What feels blissful TO YOU? What gets your heart racing? Like I tell my clients, I don’t ask you these questions, or probe your mind, for shits and giggles. I am intentional about the questions I pose to you all. So stop for one fucking minute and ask yourself that question: WHAT FEELS BLISSFUL TO YOU? What wakes you up at night because the thought of this thing excites you? What seems impossible and scary, yet probable and secure? Hmmmm….

Or…the other option: DON’T take one moment to stop. Thus, possibly miss an opportunity to listen to that IMG_1912inner voice telling you which way to go. UP. TO. YOU. 

At first, like any muscle, listening to and hearing that voice takes practice and time to actually develop it. “We grow the most from things that stretch us the most.” -Unknown

Therefore, be patient with yourself. It takes time to hear that voice. Or, like I tell ya’ all often: it may take you crashing your scooter over and over and over before you actually are aware that someone (yourself or god) is
telling you something. Listen! Look What I Found is packed with these ideas that I am sharing today:

“Our muscles will grow more physically when we stretch them. Our relationships will strengthen when we stretch them through awareness, connection and vulnerability. Our minds will grow when we stretch it to encompass more knowledge, experience and put effort into learning. Our spirit lengthens when we devote our thought, prayers or meditation to our higher power, our god, and ourselves.”

 My Note from the Universe this morning said this: IMG_2395

“In all battles of the heart over the mind, go with your heart. Because, truly, Rebecca, it’s a lot easier for your mind to catch up with your heart, than for your heart to catch up with your mind. A whole lot.”

WHOA! That is brilliant! And possibly apropos for todays riff. Our heart is the one guiding us towards our bliss, not our minds or heads. This 10 pound mass tends to get in the way more than blaze a trail. When you get caught up in your head, do this: GET OUT! Get out of your head and into your body. Your heart may constantly be trying to catch up to those neuronic messages…constantly. Our mind…hell, that is for a whole other blog. Next time. 🙂images (1)

And I say to you: Listen to, or TRY (CB) to listen to YOU. It is always true.

Like most times I set out to write, I never know what will come out. I listen to my heart. Following my fingers as they riff a bunch of words that form sentences that form paragraphs, a blissful product develops. I trust the process. YOU may think I, or god, is speaking directly to your heart right now. If so, please share that with me. It encourages me. It reminds me that I am Following My Bliss. We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. My spirit loves to experience the benefits of following my bliss: Touching hearts and #changinglives 😉

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

 

F.G.O.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” -George Bernard Shaw 

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As you may have read in my last post I recently celebrated my One Year Anniversary of writing my blog: Still Playin’ With It. Within the last two months, my life has taken a shift with a new job. One that I am so very proud to be doing. This new chapter has encapsulated my mosaic and solidified the masterpiece within. Amongst the other F.G.O’s! (just wait…I will explain this acronym below!) I have found a deep love of ACRONYMS!

IMG_2043These F.G.O’s are simultaneously teaching me valuable lessons, and wiping me out mentally and physically. Please don’t hear this as bad. And don’t hear it as good. It just is. With new jobs, experiences, relationships, etc., comes adjustment. If not aware of and a bit cautious, we may become exhausted. I tend to jump in with all of me and then some. I have learned the hard way at times how to slow down. Like a GONG TO MY HEAD in BALI...I sometimes have to be wiped out to slow down. Hmmmm….not the best recipe! I am aware. 🙂

But a gorgeous opportunity for me and YOU to learn from. Or an…

F.G.O.=Fucking Growth Opportunity.

F.G.O’s are real. They are a way the universe gets our attention when we don’t want to listen. Or can’t hear because of the inundation of stimuli this world brings. Every experience and interaction is an F.G.O.

Every one? Sure. Why not?! Why not look at this world with the lens of: “What am I here to hear?” “What am I to experience RIGHT NOW?” This is a small shift, but a precious one. Or, as my dear friend and guide (LN) said:

“How about shifting your mindset from: 

What is happening TO YOU. 

To:  

What am I intended to learn from these experiences?”

Stop! Right NOW…for one moment. Please let that sift in. Let this thought resonate.

If we believe all moments in this season of our yummy, adventurous, and sometimes awkwardly painful life are an F.G.O, then we are able to allow the process of life to unfold a little more gently. And these F.G.Os will be a hell of a lot more exhilarating! Like I have said before in a few of my favorite posts:

IMG_1942“BRING IT ON! I AM READY TO ROCK THIS MUSEUM CALLED LIFE!”

That doesn’t mean they aren’t painfully difficult sometimes. It is these times that you utilize your resources. Call a friend, a parent, a sibling. Pray. Ask for support. Go for a run. Sign up for a random 5k. Do something that you know is good for your soul. Yoga. Meditate. Spend some QT with your pet or favorite human being. Take another moment and make your resource list. When you aren’t feeling lovable, who can you call to love on you? I bet you can think of 3 things right now that would pick you up when you are down. Just sayin’. IMG_1678

I am excited for this shift to happen in YOU! I am hopeful that when you open your eyes to all experiences and interactions as F.G.O‘s, what you will see. And maybe, just maybe, your life will flow a little more smoothly.

When traveling through Europe and Bali solo, F.G.O‘s are EVERYWHERE! One, because when traveling alone, your eyes, heart and mind are open to all around you. No distraction. Two, you are vulnerable. Yes. That word we all are afraid of: Vulnerability! More like: COURAGEOUS! And open to all that the world is there to teach you in each moment. That F#*@-ing cave! Right?!

F.G.O‘s may be tainted by F.E.A.R. (For more on this radical acronym click link.)

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real

This F.E.A.R keeps you paralyzed by a bunch of bullshit that feels real, but truly isn’t. I elaborate on what our brain does with this F.E.A.R in If You Build It and a few other blogs.

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Challenge those F.E.A.Rs. And if you don’t have the energy to challenge them, simply watch them. With curiosity. Like waves. Allow them to come in and go out. See them as an F.G.O. Experience them with the guidance of grace within and not with the energy of F.E.A.R.

Lastly, here is this weeks challenge from Still Playin’ With It:

-Develop an acronym in your life. Your name. A word you find powerful. Share it with me. 

Thank you immensely for being true to yourself. Thank you for reading me. Thank you for being the best part of Still Playin’ With It! Love, Rebecca

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

GOOD ON YA!

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! 

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This is the story of the last 365 days of my life….(the spark notes)

Once upon a time, in a land far, far, far, far, wait that is too many. Anyways, in a land called: Laserville, a beautiful princess was playin’ in the field. She would stop and enjoy every scent and blade of grass. This princess would idolize the intricacy of each animal and creature that crossed her path. She would smile and capture the heart of those she spoke to. She loved to see if her smile would make a difference.

“Is it contagious?” she pondered… She loved to love.

This princess, we will call her Boots, was sitting in this gorgeous field on her back watching the clouds go by. Boots was enamored by the shapes of the clouds as they rolled by. She giggled and smiled at each moment. She was enjoying the space between the clouds. She was in it to win it. She was perfectly Boots.

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As Princess Boots sat in the field this day, she knew she was being called to something great. She felt the quiet nudge of god to walk forward with great courage and bravery. She innately knew that the battle would be fierce, but she would prevail. Well, she thought she knew. The doubts were large and in charge at times. She believed in order to win the prize of her beloved (herself) she must step out and answer the call. Little did Boots know she was entering the Initiation phase of her Hero’s Journey.

When Boots would quiet her mind, which was a challenge in its own, she heard tremendous opposition:

YOU WILL WIN! VS. YOU WILL BATTLE!

To win you must battle, fight, struggle and squirm. “SIGN ME UP!” and “FUCK THAT!” were a few of the thoughts that ran through this sweet princesses mind…

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“Boots, you must WILLINGLY enter the most FEARFUL experiences of your life to find the TREASURE,” her inner guide would say.

So what did Boots do? She started a blog. Isn’t that what all people at the precipice of adventure do? Shoot. I mean, Boots wasn’t no dummy. Boots was a complicated creature who enjoyed the complications of life. She thought, “Well, I guess if I am going to enter this outrageous amount of fearfully exciting parts of My-Me, I will let the whole fucking world know about it!” Yep, that’s Boots for ya. She is an outrageously vulnerable and BOLD princess.

“YOU will see, world! I will jump in and take you all with me! Let’s do this!”

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From the beginning Boots felt a fire inside her that she hadn’t felt before. She didn’t know how much she would love writing. She didn’t know how much of an impact she would have on so many UNTIL SHE DID IT. Boots didn’t know what her bliss was until she conquered the fear inside of her that said she couldn’t, shouldn’t or wouldn’t meet her goal.

Boots, sweet Boots, was following her bliss. And stayed committed weekly. She claims that BLOGGING, writing, and “Leading at Scale” are probably the most rewarding part of her mosaic of the last year. Even compared to traveling through Bali. Boots found herself in her writing. Boots found her inner most ember as she dug deep to conquer and slay her dragon.

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Lesson: YOU WON’T KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE SOMETHING UNTIL YOU DO IT. 

Boots doesn’t do things in a half-ass fashion. This princess does things with a full-ass. She likes to add as many variables as humanly possible. So, she decided it was time to start studying for her licensing exam, too. In the end of March 2014, Boots started studying for her licensing exam. Morning, noon and nights. Weekends, holidays and everyday, was full of study prep. She was at the coffee shop by 5:30 most mornings and spend 8-10 hours every weekend in preparation for the biggest TEST of her life.

This test wasn’t about passing a two part exam that she studied 6 months for. It was about believing in herself enough to know she could and would slay this paper dragon.

In August of 2014, Boots became a princess with a few more letters behind her name and a whole new field of opportunity in front of her.

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Lesson: SOMETIMES YOU JUST GOTTA JUMP THE HOOPS TO WIN THE ULTIMATE PRIZE

As the summer started to end on one side of the princess’s world, it just began on the other. Princess Boots decided to continue her summer in Bali. Boots being the wild, courageous and some may say, CRAZY princess she is, ventured to Bali for 18 days on another solo tour of herself. Bali provided the platform to truly step into the cave she feared to enter. The-cave-you-fear-to-enter

“Bali, oh Bali!” Boots sings, “Bali is my muse, my friend, my undying and ultimate love because this is where I found myself.”

Courageously this brave little princess took off to the other side of the world. With her backpack, journal and a few bucks, she headed out without knowing any details of the future. Knowing the whole time that voice she heard that day in the field was whispering,

“This, my dear princess, will also be a part of your gorgeous mosaic that will come with all aspects of a lesson: the call, the acceptance, the battle and the prize.”

Boots humbly accepted. Boots remembers trembling on the flight over knowing she was in the midst of a perfect storm. (I am getting verklempt as I write this part, readers.) This was one of the scariest moments of her life.  10704094_10152847182747189_3294955951532801723_n

As Princess Boots stumbled, tripped, soared, scuba dove and loved through Bali, she became highly aware of the inner turmoil that was coming to a gelatinous finality. This “jell-o” is the inner most webbing of her mosaic. Like a mermaid, Boots danced her way through the waters of her soul. Coming face to face with the scariest, and most rewarding parts of her travels Boots came back from Bali a changed princess!

Ready to LEAP!

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LESSON: TRAVEL. AND WHEN YOU DO, LET IT BE A JOURNEY INWARD.

Since returning from the land of Bali…Boots felt a tremendous pull to figure out what the hell was next. Inundated, FROM WITHIN, to write a list as long as the Nile River in order to feel accomplished, Boots felt defeated. “Now what? What is next?” she thought. In the midst of the turmoil, Boots remembered that Bali had taught her thee most valuable lesson of her life:

HOW TO LISTEN TO HER INNER GUIDE, HER INNER TRUTH. HER INNER DESIRE. HOW TO LISTEN TO THE STILL VOICE INSIDE HER THAT SPEAKS BEAUTIFULLY AND CLEARLY. WITHOUT QUESTION OR DOUBT. 

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From this space Princess Boots turned down a job offer, which scared the piss out of her inner child.

“What are you thinking there sweet princess? Are you sure? Are you really sure? What if…” 

Boots sweetly replied to those fearful voices: “Ssssshhh, I got this.” 

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Boots recognized through the guidance of her own therapist that less is by far more. And guess what she did? She let go. She let go of the need to control it all and ALLOWED her life to unfold…

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Tired of the details, Boots continued to do the work. She knew there were bigger and better things beyond the majestic land of the castle grounds, but didn’t quite know which way to go. So, she sat still. She waited. She pondered. She embraced the moments of self exploration and the opportunities to envision EXACTLY what she wanted.

In October, Princess Boots opened the door to her private practice with the courage of a nat. She was so scared. She didn’t feel brave. She felt minuscule and worthless. Did she know enough? Would she be able to make it all happen? Would she be good enough? Would she fail? OH, THE FEAR! But she pressed through the fear and doubts. She opened her heart to those that needed guidance. Today, she is in the business of changing lives…and hearts.

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Lesson: DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN THE DETAILS. JUST DO IT. 

In the final chapter of this FAIRY TALE, Princess Boots couldn’t be more content with the wrapping up of an adventurous year.

In January, Princess Boots was offered a job working for the military. Five years ago, Princess Boots was standing in the Castle gym talking to a friend and stated:

“My dream job would be to work with the military inside and outside the office, hiking with them, training with them. Coaching them and doing therapy with them…”

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Today, she is doing it. Princess Boots is now serving back in a commitment to her father i.e The King, and in a commitment to herself. As she wrapped up an 11 mile hike last week with her majestic army, she wept as she sat in her chariot. Princess Boots FELT the FEELINGS of her courageous journey.

Victory comes in the courage and bravery of the battle. You can’t win until you play. You can’t know true victory until you slay the dragons. You won’t know your inner self until you step in to the fearful cave. That is a message that Princess Boots wants YOU to know as TRUTH.

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“Your heart is free. Have the courage to follow it!” -Braveheart

There are moments that Princess Boots feels awkward, scared, and anxious. She isn’t immortal. She is human. She shares this humanity with all she is exposed to. Princess Boots speaks mantras to herself daily such as:

“Good is good.” 

“I will write. I will travel. I will teach.”

“I am powerful.”

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And today, this 9th day of March, 2015, Still Playin’ With It has 4,198 hits from 27 countries.

While Princess Boots enjoys her successes, she is grateful of each energetic mass and mosaic that have been a part of that 4,198! She embraces her readers. She sends them love. She recognizes she wouldn’t be the princess she is today without the support of her family, friends and followers of her bliss!

Princess Boots kissed some frogs, lost a slipper, or two. She slayed dragons, made deals with smoke and mirrors, fell, conquered, and bargained. AND SHE ROSE. SHE SAID YES. 

she LIVES and LOVES happily ever after…

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THANK YOU! GRATZI! TERIMA KASIH!

Holy Shitake!

“Be brave! Take Risks! NOTHING can substitute experience.” Paulo Coelho

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Great Morning to you all! I am approaching my ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY of Still Playin’ With It! Holy Shitaki mushrooms! I can’t believe it! In celebration of this amazing accomplishment and for your loyalty…I am preparing one dynamite BLOG! Not that they haven’t ALL been DYNAMITE! 🙂

IMG_0846For this week, or at least for today, I am putting the links of three of my most favorite blogs. I do read through them and find it fascinating to see the growth I have made as a writer. Today is one of my best friends birthdays (Happy Birthday DAWN!) Dawn is one of my loyal followers and readers. She thanked me this am for continuing to follow my bliss and stay committed to Still Playin’ With It. Thank you DAWN and everyone around the world for reading. I will continue to evolve, vulnerabilities in hand, as the writer I am to be. Or “Leading at Scale” as one of my favorite writers, James Clear, poses!

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Shake, Rattle and Kick ASS!

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Winner Winner Chicken Dinner

Lastly, here is the link to my first EVER blog on Still Playin’ With IT. Please read in preparation for my Anniversary PARTY edition!

Love, Love, Love and more of that shit,

Rebecca

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“The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day your realized why.” –Mark Twain

Rise and Shine!

Good Morning Still Playin’ With It Family and Friends…

It is 0605 and I am off to take my second battalion hike…6 miles.  As I venture out this am…I wanted to share this with you: A video of the morning bugle call that fills me with PRIDE! 

Reminding each of you to:

1. Thank a Service member today

2. Get your ass out of bed

3. Move your body

4. Laugh a ton

5. Don’t take anything too seriously

6. Remember that EVERY item in your life is there for a SPECIFIC reason

7. Show up EVERY day

8. Be present

9. Challenge yourself

10. LOVE LIFE WITH ALL THAT YOU ARE!

Honored to know YOU and be KNOWN by YOU!

Love, Rebecca

Peak a BOO!

“As a man thinketh, so he becomes.” -Buddha

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Let’s start this weeks Still Playin’ With It blog with a quote from last weeks, Mosaic:

“In Winner Winner Chicken Dinner I talked about Newton and the Law of Motion. Like the quote above from Einstein, we must keep moving forward! Not only to stay in motion, but also to KEEP OUR BALANCE!

…We are fragmented souls. Fragmented in a way that suggests that there is a balance of our pieces. Not fragmented as in BROKEN. Got that?

…Regardless of your belief in the above theory on fragmentation, our lives can be felt as more balanced when we step into the reintegration of these parts. Take a moment right now. Close your eyes. Imagine, like a beautiful mosaic, your parts coming together to form a tight, gorgeous, perfectly connected MASTERPIECE! That is you: a timeless piece of art…”

 

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One, it is scary to step into the fragmented portions of our lives. It is awkward and fearful.

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” -Joseph Campbell

This quote shows up many times throughout the webbing of my blog because it is a powerful statement and an even more powerful experience once you step inside. This cave represents the portions of our mosaic awaiting to be seen as a part of you. NOT as a BIG, DEEP CREVIS THAT IS UNFIXABLE, BROKEN, SHATTERED, WORTHLESS OR UNLOVABLE. IMG_0223

Fragmented. What a crappy word. Makes ya feel less than, yes?

Fragment is defined as: a broken part or piece of something: an incomplete part.

This word ignites fear, let alone has a negative connotation. May I challenge you to reframe the previous word and look at it from a different angle.

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Fragments of a mosaic are where the LIGHT SHINES IN! Isn’t that a rad thought and image.

The light is where the cementation of our life experiences coalesce. I love the word COALESCENCE! Early on in my Still Playin’ With It days I wrote about the inspiration the word COALESCENCE brought my soul in For The Love of Legos:

COALESCE: “to grow together; to fuse:
to unite into a whole:

to unite for a common end:

to arise from the combination of distinct elements”

“We grow TOGETHER and fuse to unite into a whole, for a common end, to arise from the combination of distinct elements.”

IMG_6491It is truly fascinating to me to think of the ways my life and this blog has coalesced. Almost a year running and over 4000 hits!  The words of my past are coalescing into a perfect masterpiece inspired by the fragmented parts of my mosaic.

Dig Deep Peeps! Right now. It is time to let that beautiful light shine. Those are the spaces between that really allow people to love YOU. You. Perfectly YOU.

Now enough of the fluff! Rock this week with passion. Open your arms to the Universe (wink wink JC) and say:

“BRING IT ON! I AM READY TO ROCK THIS MUSEUM CALLED LIFE!” 

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Gratitude for my followers, family, friends, and mysterious readers from across the world. I appreciate you so much. Please tell me how this masterpiece of fragmentation is blessing and teaching you. Visit my website: Rebecca Laser dot com to shoot me a quick email, ask me a question, or make a suggestion of a topic you would find inspiring.

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Mosaic

“Life is like riding a bicycle.

To keep your balance you must keep moving.”

Albert Einstein

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It has been two weeks since I have written. This is the longest stretch I have had since starting Still Playin’ With It almost a year ago. The past month has brought a tremendous amount of change to my life. As you have all read, and experience with me, I have ventured through Licensure for Marriage and Family Therapy (LMFT). I started my private practice, which is an amazing tale of courage (link to Perfectly Rebecca). As well, I took a solo trip to Bali for 18 days. (Link to Bali Dreams and Look What I Found: stories of Bali.) I have also been to Oregon and Austin since December. So, this Rebecca has been busy, to say the least.

From licensure, to Bali, and every state of the U.S. and of my mind, I have grappled with what is. Whenimages (1) writing, we have a tendency to discover answers that otherwise may be lost in the soup of our meshed neural pathways in our skull. Trying to make sense of an experience or feeling, our brains tell us reasons why we feel the way we do.

For example: You feel anxious. Your brain says: “There has GOT to be a reason for this and I am going to tell you why.” Then it berates you with multiple reasons why, (these things that you really weren’t thinking of in the first place) are now firing through your mind increasing your anxiety. From your laundry list to your bullying experience as a child, they all may rise in the midst of this feeling. Maybe your parents are getting older or you didn’t say the “right” thing the night before to your partner. It literally will fire all of this at you at once till you grab on to what it MUST be. Then you deal with it while creating more negative energy around this anxious feeling.homeresonance375

Lovely, Rebecca. What the hell do I do with this then? I tell you Still Playin’ With It PEOPLE! I tell you NOW! You stop. You look on the feeling with curiosity and allow yourself to be present in the feeling while it passes, because it will. Then you call your parents, hug your spouse and go for a run. I know it sounds simple, but guess what? It really can be that simple.

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In Winner Winner Chicken Dinner I talked about Newton and the Law of Motion. Like the quote above from Einstein, we must keep moving forward! Not only to stay in motion, but also to KEEP OUR BALANCE! How many times do we talk about balance in our lives? Balancing career and family. Balancing all the different aspects of our selves. I speak a lot to my clients on the integration of our “selves” in therapy. We are fragmented souls. Fragmented in a way that suggests that there is a balance of our pieces. Not fragmented as in BROKEN. Got that?

Your fragments could be from different eras in your life, relationships, experiences, and upbringing.0-PRwyuP2F-mosaic-20course-s- Regardless of your belief in the above theory on fragmentation, our lives can be felt as more balanced when we step into the reintegration of these parts. Take a moment right now. Close your eyes. Imagine, like a beautiful mosaic, your parts coming together to form a tight, gorgeous, perfectly connected masterpiece. That is you: a timeless piece of art. Thank you to those that have trusted me in this process of reintegration in my practice. It has been amazing and a true honor. You know who you are. I love you all.

Today, I will leave you all with this. Recently I took a job as an MFLC: Military Family Life Counselor at Camp Pendleton. I am “embedded” in a battalion. I serve as a therapist and additional support to the marines and sailors of this unit.  As you know from reading me, I am a proud supporter of the military. If you haven’t, PLEASE read “Service”!  This blog is a true reflection of my thoughts with the dedication of our service members. IMG_0792

I committed in the writing of Service, and to my father, that I would serve back in my career for at least a year. Well, guess what? I am doing it! This is my platform to give back to the thousands of men and women, past and present, that have sacrificed and given their all. Last week I was honored with the opportunity to go on the battalion hump. A measly four mile hike through the green hills of Camp Pendleton.

The CULMINATION of the past 5 years of my life, experiencing what I created. I CREATED by a dream: a.k.a FOLLOWING MY BLISS!IMG_7304

p.s. My heart also BELONGS TO MOMMY! I love you mom. Thank you for your undying support and loving me through this amazing process of reintegration and the discovery of my true self! I wouldn’t be who, or where I am today with out you. I love you, Mom.

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Are you kicking ass?

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Below is a blog I wrote from April, 2014! It is by far one of my favorites! As I have grown the past year, I reflect on my writing specifically. I look back over my blog and see the growth, as a writer, that I have done. Some were small steps, some were ginormous. With each step YOU and I take, comes progression, movement and evolvement. Therefore, no matter the size of the step, YOU and I will expand, develop and cultivate our own yellow brick roads.

I wrote last week in A Great Resolve about setting your resolution to make 2015 GREAT! Do not merely hope for the best, waiting for 2015 to bring it to you! Expect Greatness by creating it.

I mentioned this definition in A Great Resolve as well: “resolution” can be defined as: the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc. :the act of resolving something.”

IMG_0606By awareness of this definition, I realized something this week. Sometimes the answer comes from hind sight. The word resolution, as defined through, say, A New Year’s Resolution, is setting something for the future. The above definition suggests, to me, more of discovering an answer through experiences of the past. Yesterday was the past. One second ago was the past. What did you learn?

I will set out this year to continue to Expect Greatness by being Perfectly Rebecca. As well, I will utilize my past lessons to hear the voice inside guiding me to where I am to be! In Look What I Found, I explain the depths of lessons I found while traveling through Bali. This is my bliss: Traveling, writing and teaching. If You Build It explains the beauty of living by your dreams, YOUR BLISS! What is your BLISS? What wakes you up at night with a passion in your gut?

IMG_0676Anyways, I send you off with the beautiful riff below. I am in the midst of some major transitions in my life. I look forward to sharing with you all as they unfold. Please take a moment to read How To Kick Ass In One Easy Step.

 

Well, that is, if you want to KICK ASS!! Do you?

 

How to Kick Ass in One Easy Step

I am sitting in a Starbucks on Sunset BLVD this am. To get here, I had to weave around the detour for a race happening on Hollywood BLVD. Apropos for today’s blog…

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On your marks…Get set…GO!!!!

First thing that we encounter as we leave our mother’s body? Breath. Last thing we experience as we take off to our next space? Breath. And every moment in between? Breath.

But we must also believe in it’s power to support our goals and dreams. What I mean is this: Look at your breath as your building block. You want to increase your pace, speed or endurance in exercise, practice focusing on your breath. You want to decrease anxiety or stress levels, practice. You want to be more attentive in your meditation practice and enjoy deeper thoughts, practice connecting to your vitality, your breath. Like the one listed below… 🙂

Deep Thoughts By Jack Handey:

“If a kid asks where rain comes from, I think a cute thing to tell him is “God is crying.” And if he asks why God is crying, another cute thing to tell him is “Probably because of something you did.”

Step one: Breathe with intention.

What is intention? One view of intention: higher consciousness thought. When you hold an intention you actually call forth your conscious awareness at a present level.That is it. We, as humans, as spiritual beings, have the ability to find our present moment, our presence, in a breath. We have the POWER to calm our nerves through a breath. We have the ability to increase our heart rate at a pace that our breath can assist in reaching. We have the design to expand lung capacity and maintain a steady heart rate by…breathing.

Let’s try it together: (Come on. Just do it.) Inhale through your nose to a count of 10, or 11 or 50 for heavens sake…just pick a slow paced inhale… slowly, as slow as you possibly can. NOW STOP. Before you exhale, which we normally do quite quickly from this point, become exquisitely aware and now…exhale…AS slowly and consciously as you inhaled. Get grounded again before you inhale…now consciously inhale again, SLOWLY. Maybe give your breath a color. Visualize this colored air oxygenating your body from the base of your spine, up through each vertebrae, filling your lungs, enlarging your rib cage…this vibrant breath swirling around your heart space and moving up into your skull and swirling around that beautiful brain of yours…and out the crown of your head. Wow. Did you see that?

Someone once shared with me how he meditates and I really appreciated it (Thank you LS): As you exhale, visualize yourself squishing down to the smallest molecular form of you, like you were a speck of dust, a particle of sand, an electron, an atom, a quark! (yes, look that one up). Then as you inhale, imagine yourself expanding to a ginormous form of YOU. Like you could engulf all of Texas with your amazing mass. NOW HOLD IT. And consciously exhale as you transform this immensely sized being into the smallest, tiniest form of YOU. Breath in…lungs expand, oxygen increasing the expansiveness WE formulated with those moments that WE created. You did. You created that moment of intention of YOUR breath.

Do we have to focus on our breath? No. See, your ANS-Autonomic Nervous System- will continue to breath FOR you. Most ANS mechanisms are involuntary. The ANS acts as a “control system” that functions below the level of consciousness even. Beautifully and intricately formed in our being, the ANS assists us when we are unaware of our design. Thank you ANS! Sometimes I forget to breath…and am able to simply allow this visceral function to be. We can bring precision to this valuable force by utilizing our focus.

Spirituality of Breath: In most, dare I say all, traditions, spirit means breath. The spirit in us and the spirit through us is breath. Do you believe that you have the power to connect with your spirit through your breath? Again, maybe try that exercise a few more times really focusing on your spirit, god, God, whatever connects your spiritually to you. Pray as you practice this breath. Meditate as you breath with awareness. And gratitude. Let us be grateful for this tool in our belt.

PranaYAMA is prana-YUMMY!

Pranayama is a Sanskrit word meaning: extension of the prana or breath. Or extension of the life force. Breath equals life force. Therefore, that kick ass step I was selling you on in my title: Breath is life force. Breath is energy. Breath is our life. Breath is the key to awareness, presence and adaptation even to stress, yes? Breath is our fuel. (And a little plug for Yoga. Sometimes the only place in this world I can be present is on my mat…while I am focusing on the breath that centers my practice.)

I included a picture of myself from the 5k I ran last Sunday. Just a little 3.10686 mile run along the coast…I was inspired to riff about breath because of this race. The reason I crossed the finish line was because of my breath. My breath fueled me, increased my pace when needed and slowed my stride, too. My breath was with me the entire way. As well, breath is what linked me to the other stars racing that day. We all have breath, we all have life while we are still breathing, and this connects us as humans. From the beginning to the end. From the start to the finish line. This race…this pace. I’m ready to execute. Are you?

Our bodies, designed in greatness, will always hold our breath…so you don’t have to. Let it flow. 

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Step two: THERE AIN’T NO STEP TWO. Just breath 🙂

A Great Resolve

“All great achievements require time.” Maya Angelou

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I mean, lets be honest. We ALL know what A “New Years Resolution” is. Right? Remember the resolution you wrote out on a post-it note on December 31st? And we have all set out January 1st with these amazing goals. 24-Hour-Fitness is hopping the first two weeks of January. Stocks rise at every gym across America and cigarette stocks take a dive. Within weeks the flippity-flop happens and we are smoking again and not working out. What will it take for YOU to remain the course?

IMG_0586A “resolution” whether January 1, or May 11, is nothing more than a commitment to yourself.  A commitment to CREATE the life you want by taking small steps and inquiring into what will get you there. A great commitment it is. I am not demeaning New Years Resolutions! Any way to get you where you want to go is commendable! As well, the new year seems to have a feel of a new starting point. Out with the old, in with the new! So, what are you throwing out? What stains are you removing to create space and flow for the infancy of a new life?

First, I pose this question: How does it feel to be a scientist? A Chef? A creator? A mother? A father? You are the ultimate creator of an amazing 2015. What are you thinking 2015 is going to bring into your life? Nothing, I say. Because, like I mentioned in Expecting Greatness, I want you to think of what YOU are going to create and expect in 2015!

Now that you are in the know that YOU are the mad scientist behind the petrie dish of 2015, tell me what your dreams are.  Does your post-it note include:

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1.Lose Weight

2.Quit Smoking

3.Go to church

4.Get a better job

5.Travel 

6.Save Money

 

These are all very common ones…with good reason.  So, today, lets look at these resolutions a little differently, shall we? Will you join me? Can you look at resolutions from a different frame of mind?

By definition, according to Webster, a “resolution” can be defined as:

the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc.

:the act of resolving something.

IMG_4618YEW! I like that! Therefore, if we looked at a NEW YOU, one that IS DEFINITELY Expecting Greatness in 2015 my second query becomes:

“What are you going to resolve in 2015?”

Resolution is the act or process of resolving. The act of answering, determining and making something outrageously complex become simpler. SO, if you want to quit smoking, get out of a crappy relationship, or find a job that satisfies you…what plan will YOU create to resolve this energy of, shall I say, discontentment? What will you commit to do today that will assist you in finding your resolution to the dream you have? Or solving the conflict within? Or finding the answer to the part of your life that is bringing you discomfort?

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1. BELIEVE!  YOU have got to! YOU HAVE GOT TO BELIEVE in yourself.

“80 percent of success is due to psychology—mindset, beliefs, and emotions—and only 20 percent is due to strategy—the specific steps needed to accomplish a result”– Tony Robbins

2. EXERCISE! I will expand on the benefits of attaining our goals thru exercise next week! And I am not speaking of the benefits to your physical body.

“The real reason we feel so good when we get our blood pumping is that it makes the brain function at its best…building muscle and conditioning the heart and lungs are essentially side effects!” (Excerpt from the best book I have read in a while: Spark read it!)

3. Utilize Your Resources (friends, mentor, therapist, coach)

IMG_0724To make a picture clearer (in a complete “I only use my iPhone for photos” type of explanation) you need higher resolution. Zooming in only makes the image more blurry. Right RC? So, what do you do? You improve its LOW RESOLUTION!  Take the low resolution of 2014 and improve it’s quality to make it a deliberately created masterpiece. ZOOM in on all YOU desire 2015 to be. I am with you.

I believe in your gifts. Do you? From a boxer, to a comedian. From the waitress to the student. The Marine to the Police Officer. The Sales Rep to the Barista. We all have a voice inside us asking for a higher quality photo of our lives. This is your canvas! How are you going to paint it?

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Tomorrow is still the first day of a 365 page book that you are writing….

Yes, it is January 11, not January 1st. That is ok. Flow here, Still Playin’ With it Readers. Allow yourself to create something radical today: 1.11.15.
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In deepest love and admiration: Happy 2015! I am so proud of YOU!

Love, Peace and Clarity,

Rebecca

“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

EXPECT GREATNESS in 2015!

 

What are YOU going to bring to your life in 2015?

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NOT, what is 2015 going to bring YOU?!!

Expect and Embrace all that this year will bring!

Enjoy this short little Still Playin’ With It video…and accept the CHALLENGE!!

In Love and Expectation,

YOUR STILL PLAYIN’ WITH IT GURU…

Rebecca 🙂

Merry YOUmas!

 Dedicated to YOU: my followers, friends, family, clients, and fellow passengers on this ride we call…LIFE!

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T’was the Day of YOUmas

T’was the day of YOUmas and my only goal,

Was the feeling of gratitude penetrating my soul.

I looked to the left and I looked to the right.

Realizing what was actually in site:

Merely myself and the connection I could grasp instantly.

And the love that I had for especially ME!

To jest at the thought of loving YOU first,

Is a pure misconception and probably the worst.

YOU are the reason you are where you are.

YOU are perfectly placed not too close or too far.

Perfectly Rebecca and perfectly YOU.

It is the exact time to see how YOU grew!

Through my “riffs” and words I have experienced your joy.

And been the proud parent of a blog I enjoy!

So, as I sit in the midst of this beautiful dance,

And burst at the seams of my new corduroy pants.

I say to YOU my fellow warrior and queen:

“Be the best you can be and follow your dream!

This is a  test! One that cannot be missed.

One that will lead you to FOLLOW YOUR BLISS!”

Let your LOVE light shine so pretty and bright

And Merry YOUmas to all and to all a good fucking night! 😉

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Merry Christmas from Still Playin’ With It and Rebecca Laser!

Fa La La La

In these final moments as we approach Christmas 2014, I wish you all the happiest of the year ending. I will write at least one more riff before we end. Enjoy the beauty of the Winter Solstice and the magic and finality of 2014. I am proud of each one of you. From Slovakia to Germany. Indo to Greece. China to Canada. The Netherlands to Afghanistan. The United States to England and every city, nation and space between…THANK YOU!! 

My utmost gratitude and respect is coming your way!

Love, Rebecca 

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My mantra as of the past two weeks has been: “Less is more.” The liberation that came from this statement was truly satisfying. (Gratzi Dana!) I recognized when I dug deeper that there were things coming up that I want to share with you: my Still Playin’ With It family.

This ties in to my “to-do” list. Tis’ the season for that bloody thing. How many of you are more focused on what to mark off your to-do list than on what is in front of your face? Or WHO is in front of your face? IMG_2090Racing around the mall, Wal-mart and Marshalls (Link to Effing Marshall. A riff from a few months back that I think is hilarious. Just sayin’) in an attempt to feel that your day has been at least somewhat successful.

We may take a second to glance up from our Iphones and Droids (link to Insta This) after looking at our electronic check list, to see if the line at Macy’s is moving forward. There is even this awesome App called CLEAR that really hits my task completing vein!! Like a fein ready to be worthy of a moment to relax tonight, I get to either swipe left to put a line through the item or swipe right to remove it entirely! Watch out TINDER! This is a perfect gift for your neurotic family member and its a bargain at only 99 cents. Sweet deal. (Thank you Ian.)

Oh, the irony. As I am sitting here writing about CLEAR, my phone dings with a reminder from CLEAR of a
gift I didn’t want to forget to buy. Ha! Yes, it even will send you a reminder. SHUT IT DOWN, REBECCA!

Let’s take this a step further, shall we? “Yes. We shall, Rebecca. Thank you so much for helping me dig a little deeper. Look a little more inside this body and mind of mine.” You’re welcome. 🙂 IMG_6053

When pondering on this new concept of my never ending “TO-DO” list and allowing myself to step into the cave of truth and wisdom I feared to enter, I have come to a conclusion the past year. The conclusion: My “To-Do” list has been a means of not only distraction, but also a coping skill, if you will. What I mean is this: If I focus on this list of tasks to be completed, then I don’t have to or won’t look at the other things externally and/or internally that are begging for my attention. In this space where I get to mark one task off when I complete it, I FEEL better. I slash through “dog food” and the choir of angels sing as I am one step closer to finishing my list for the day while not taking the time to focus on me.

Like that little voice inside you that whispers: “Meditate. Hug your child. Walk your dog. Be here now.” We ignore it due to the weight of our list. “Oh, yes, I will do all that nonsense once my list is complete.” DOH! Please, let it go and do those priceless things now.

IMG_5131But who of you doesn’t do that? The more tasks I complete, the better I feel. The more I get done, the more worthy I am of feeling good? Think. On. That.

And if I don’t finish Wednesday’s List? God forbid I would simply allow it to flow in to the next day. Or imagine, if it didn’t really matter at all?  We chatted about this In Do Do or Doo Doo where I encouraged you to focus on the wonderful things you did get done versus what you didn’t. Again, less is, and can be, so much more when you allow yourself to flow in YOUR perfection.

I shared last week in Perfectly Rebecca, I have been practicing setting my intention for the day before my feet hit the floor in the morning. Sometimes this is just a “go through” of my day ahead type moment. While taking deep breaths, I go over my schedule, in preparation.

Lastly, I have been challenged to limit my “To-Do” list to no more than 3 items (Again thank you DD). I am attempting, and I mean attempting, to allow this process of awareness and letting go to create space for more. This is much harder than I thought! But freeing as well.

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My challenge to you in these last 9 days till Christmas…

1. Stay focused on what matters right now

2. Smile at a stranger

3. Offer a hand to help someone

4. Reflect on how much you do do

5. Slow down

6. Be proud of who you are

7. Stay off your phone while in the line at Starbucks

8. Take an evening stroll and look at the wonder

9. Soak in a bubble bath

10. HUG it out

11, yes, 11. LOVE. Period.

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“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Perfectly Rebecca

“Some of the worst mistakes in my life were haircuts.” -Jim Morrison

IMG_0516In Honor of and dedicated to my father: Richard Ross Craig. (He is alive, don’t worry, and more of a stud today than ever before.)  

GOOD LORD! So as I am “Still Playin’ With It…” I noticed that a bunch of my pictures, almost all, areIMG_3521 missing from my previous posts. What the hell? GRRRRRR! Then I realized why after a little recon: I deleted pics I had used from my media folder on WordPress not knowing it would remove their links in my blogs! (Insert Aussie accent here…) “Good on ya, Rebecca Laser”  for trying to organize your life and thereby lose all previous files. So! There it is. It is. It is perfectly…Rebecca Laser. They may never come back and I will be okay with that…I think. 🙂

????????????????????????????????????????????????????Let it go…Can you? Is there something in your life that is holding you back because you can’t let it go? I utilize the image of holding reigns often with my clients. Take your hands right now and visualize holding reigns as tight as possible. Finger tips digging into your palms. Fists squeezing so tight nothing could penetrate the grip. Take a deep breath and release the grip…slowly…allow the light to enter and the control to release. Enjoy the ride.

I tell you…I sat at my spot, beer in hand, being spoiled by my friend and bartender. I thought: “This is gonna be a great night to write!” Then distraction set in as I ruminated on details of the day, or on what I wanted to come out onto the screen. Oh, and then I met Ryan, a fellow writer. And then my chicken was dry and the girl behind me was yelling in my ear. All distractions of life that love to wiggle their bloody paws into our moments. Frosted on top of the fact that my photos were buried in the WordPress cemetery. (Letting it go…)

IMG_6633AHHH! WHERE THE HELL ARE MY PICTURES? (Well, trying…) This is an opportunity to practice what I preach. Deep Breath. Be here now. Enjoy the moment. Taste the hops. See the patrons. Here the tunes in my ear. Move right. Move to the right hemisphere of that gorgeous brain and feel the night. FEEL the words. Feel the presence of greatness surrounding you, readers. FEEL the elements surrounding you and FEEL yourself in the midst. There must be a gift wrapped in this shit. As I sit here I think: “What a perfect example of the title of my blog: Still Playin’ With IT!!! Again, I say: “Aren’t we all?!

I titled this “Perfectly Rebecca” because I was feeling frustrated and bummed about my blog IMG_0236mishap. Judging myself for making a mistake. Judging myself for not knowing the ins and outs of the blogging world. Frustrated at the amount of time it would take to fix it…blah blah blah. Then, I stopped and thought about a conversation I had with a wonderful girl I see in my private practice. We were discussing her frustrations at thoughts she has, or decisions she makes. She was wondering if they were “good or bad” in an attempt to clarify her feelings. Or possibly, in an attempt to identify the “whys”. Or a way to ultimately understand her true self. As I listened to this gorgeous soul discuss her pain and frustration at why things are the way they are, or why she feels the way she does, I looked at her and said, You are perfectly You! (inserted her name here.) You are perfectly and exactly where you are supposed to be. Thank you for the true inspiration you give me (MS).

And I say to YOU: wherever you are and whoever you are: YOU ARE PERFECTLY YOU. Period. Even in the midst of chaos and judgements towards yourself. Stop. Take a breath and accept this moment as ideal. Accept this space as RIGHT. Acknowledge this step as part of the amazing process we call life. And be fucking proud of yourself. You are HERE because of all the steps you took prior. Right? Repeat after me: I AM PERFECTLY (insert name here)!

IMG_7133You have a choice. You have a choice right now to be bitter and pissed, as I was for a moment. Or you can enjoy this moment as perfectly placed in your path for a purpose. Or just love yourself and your “mistakes.” The dictionary defines “mistake” as:

“an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.” 

Well then. I mean, without getting TOO DEEP…(HA! Yeah, right! I would never force ya’ all to DIG DEEP!) If you had poorly reasoned, carelessly decided, and/or insufficient knowledge, then how the hell wouldn’t you fuck it up? This statement infers there was a moment, a planck (the smallest measurement of time) where you were able to decide. To decide which way to go. And from this present awareness”mistakes” happen.

Mahatma Gandhi said: “It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.” download

Mistakes can be some of the biggest gifts in our lives. Aw, the red wedges of Bali! (Woohoo, AW!) These “mistakes”, or planck of time, or moments of reasoning… give us the bridge to the cave we fear to enter, yes? In this cave are the elements used for producing a perfect “YOU-MUFFIN”. Maybe made out of momentary icky ingredients. But, yummy nonetheless. 🙂 

NOW…Get out your air guitar and rock this planet being thee…

PERFECTLY ALIGNED INGREDIENT THAT YOU ARE!!! 

IMG_3977“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” Benjamin Franklin

Follow Me to the TOP!

Good Morning Still Playin’ With It PEEPS!

Aw the start to a new BIRTH year! My utmost love and gratitude for each of YOU. I believe it is going to be an ASS KICKING year!

Follow me to the top of your true potential. Your dreams, hopes and aspirations are just around the corner…even if the trail bends, the path is rocky or the road is slippery! Woohoo! Those make for perfect experiences! And a training which is ideal for who you are and where you are going! I promise.

Enjoy this raw video and know that I will be posting a blog this weekend with a rad “Playlist to my Life!”

Love and Ass Kickin’ Gratitude,

Rebecca

 

Links to mentioned past blogs:

Imatard, Uatard Avatard

For the Love of Legos

Tootsie Rollin’

“The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day your realized why.”
Mark Twain

Rock the Vote- Take 2!

Dear Still Playin’ With It Family,
Isn’t it a blur? Sometimes life seems to throw you into this space of CONFUSION?! This place where the only thing you can do is go back to old programs, old routines and old shit storms? As I approach my birthday, the process of death, transformation and birth are mingling in my mind. I am reposting one of my favorites today. Not only as a gift to you, my readers. But, also as a reminder to myself. So, today, I tell you this:
1. Trust the Process
2. Be willing to unravel the artichoke
3. Be beautiful in the life of another
4. Be grateful for YOU
5. Kick F-Ing ASS!
As you read on…if you have read it before, read it again while taking in what becomes clearer today. If you haven’t read this one before, enjoy and be inspired. (chips) You got this! Now, Grasshopper… Go ROCK THE VOTE!
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“Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.”-Joseph Campbell
IMG_8783As many of you read in my last post, Shake, Rattle and Kick Ass, I passed my second and final licensing exam to be an LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) in the state of California. Which is quite the battle and I am very proud of my accomplishment. Thank you to those who have supported and encouraged me along the way. Since then, 10 days ago, I have found my way to this place that is, well it…just IS! This is: THE SPACE BETWEEN. 
What is the space between? No, not the Dave Matthews song…(You’re welcome!)
You all know, if you read me diligently (and I thank you from my depths, if you do) that I love definitions of words. They carry strength. So…Between by definition: “in the period separating (two points in time.) Two points in time…what is in between two points in time? NOW.
This “Between” is my current residence. But, I am going to be the Mayor of this fucking town and call377178_285631241537769_216003152_nit: FOR-NOW. Who is ready to buy some land and plant some crops in FOR-NOW?  Prices are amazingly LOW because no one wants to live here…currently. So I will take a breath, look around and know that this space is exactly that: FOR-NOW. 
The magical land of FOR-NOW, between where you were last and where you are going…can be scary, to say the least. It can hold an energy of confusion, and or fear. Those fearful moments don’t add to the amazing process we are experiencing in the Space Between. Your free floating thoughts may sound like this: “I’m lost!” Impossible! “I’m stuck!” Nope. “I’m stranded.” Never! “What do I do now?” Be Here. 
My Space Between is filled with inquiries that I don’t have an answer…FOR-NOW. They are evolving. My current habitation is rich in development, so, I sit patiently. Well, most of the time. What will unfold? What and how will I move into this next chapter? Who will I meet that will have a specific purpose to teach me something radical? Or vice versa?
FOR-NOW is a space for letting go of control. Allow yourself to open your eyes and mind to all that is in this space. And then, settle in. Snuggle yourself into the depths of this cozy, warm, perfect place…a truly10378208_10152805634382189_3437280166053225334_nexciting place to see what is brought to you! Are you with me? Or are your insecurities and ego getting in the way of what is? Stop for a moment, right now and ask yourself that exact question. Allow the answer to come…
A tool to use for this space: BREATH! I think of meditation within the context of this space. The space between in meditation or prayer is that “place” you go where there is no time. Where there is no space, people, things…just your breath…and YOU. Link to How To Kick Ass in One Easy Step, where I talk about this practice of…breathing.
Raise your hand if you have been in or are in YOUR Space Between? Where you don’t know the next plot on your course. I don’t know where I am going…exactly. But what I DO know: I AM HERE NOW. Trust the process! Enjoy the journey…this exquisite journey into YOURSELF.
IMG_1622And of utmost importance, my FOR-NOW abode is not my FOR-EVER. Nor is yours. That is an important point to make very understandable and clear: FOR-NOW, does not mean FOR-EVER! Life is a becoming. Let your life become what it is to be through this space between.
As Mayor, President, CEO, and Soul-Proprietor of the beautiful city of FOR-NOW, I promise this to you, dear citizens: YOU can take complete solace that the unclear will become clear, the unknown WILL become known, and the fog will lift. Then and only then, will your investment multiply!
FOR-NOW
Population: 1
Who is ready to admit where they are and invest in this ocean front property? 
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“The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day your realized why.”
Mark Twain

SERVICE

DEDICATED TO ALL THOSE THAT HAVE SERVED!

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This entry is passionately riffed as the subject matter is near and dear to my heart. Please read and comment. Please allow yourself to feel my words. Thank you for reading.

Inspired…

How many of you know someone who has served this country? I am sure you all do. These are the men and women, past and present, who have given up their freedoms to protect ours.

My gratitude for the military is beyond words to express. I really have a hard time verbalizing my gratitude, my respect, admiration and utter love for this population.

The ones that… during the draft of Vietnam, watched the old black and white TV in their parents living room sat scared shitless as their number was drawn. Could you imagine this feeling? I can’t. Or while the love of your life, your son, husband, boyfriend, nephews number was drawn. Imagine.

And to the women that nursed these men back to the best health they had the ability to. For the women that served this country on the sidelines, seeing the blood and guts while hearing the same things the men did in the trenches. The smell of gasoline, the feeling of blood and the loss of a friend.

Or the ones that came home ready for a ticker tape parade and instead being spit on. Pride in their hearts and pain in their soul.

Or the ones that received the word that their child, spouse or friend had given it all for the betterment of our lives at home. Imagine.

These are the 18 year old boys (not old enough to drink legally) that say, “Sign me up. I mean I don’t have a better option. My folks are poor, I wasn’t given the opportunity to go to college, I live in a small town and don’t wanna work at the gas station, so I think I will sign up for a job that feeds me three meals, gives me a bed and pays me less than minimum wage.”

Or the ones that decided, “After college, I will commit to continued excellence by now, giving at least four more years to the betterment of this country and the men and women in the military. I want to develop leaders by being a leader.”

Or the girl that thought, “I can do this. I will show them, I will prove to myself and to the world, that I am strong, that I matter, that I am enough to fight for this country.”

Or the ones that courageously said Post 9-11, “SIGN ME UP! I am proud and honored to protect this country from an attack of this impact.” Without looking at any details of the attack or the governments involvement, they said without a blink of an eye, “I will serve, I will commit my life, I will forge forward and I will make a difference.”

Or the woman that says, “Go, my love. I will support you. I will be here when you return with my arms wide open, ready for your return, no matter the impact it has on you, me, or our family. I will love you if you return without a limb, return with a tremendous amount of stress in your mind, and the inability to connect for…a while.”

Or the parent that accepts with pride as they watch their son or daughter get on that bus and drive away for bootcamp, knowing that there is the possibility that this little person they grew in their womb and in their homes would be able to hold a gun, fight for our country and lose their life.

(Alan Jackson’s Song, “Where Were You (When The World Stopped Turning)” just came on Pandora…Thank you for the confirmation of my inspiration this am)

Or the child that watches, possibly unaware, of why Mommy or Daddy is leaving again. Smiling, they hug them, giggling they squeeze their neck while the parent holds back the tears to be strong for their family. “See you soon, baby. Daddy will be back before you know it.”

I will forever and ever and ever, admire, respect and SUPPORT our military. Despite political opinions, sex, race, sexual preference, SES, education…THANK YOU!

How can we serve them? How can we give them back a teaspoon of what they give and gave us?

I am committing to serving them right now. I will volunteer my time and career to serving this population of people. Whether by listening to their stories, connecting them to services or holding their hands. Whether supporting the families at home while their loved ones are away, or contacting our government officials to discuss the benefits they deserve…I will serve them. Whether by researching and making forward progress into treatment modalities that will assist them in processing their experiences and leading successful post-war lives, I will serve them.

The ones that DESERVE TO BE SERVED…I AM COMMITTED TO YOUR SUCCESS.

Thank you Poppy for your service to this country. You are my hero.